Everywhere we look technology surrounds us. We are lost without our smartphones, music players, earbuds and tablets. Everywhere I go people are adrift in their gizmos and gadgets. This past week I had to get x-rays done. There were 10 other people in the waiting room. I looked over at the woman across from me to say hello and maybe start a conversation. She was totally oblivious to me as she tapped away on her tablet. A quick glance at the room showed me every single person there was on a device… tap, tap, tapping away. Connecting to the World Wide Web but not connected to those around them. My son asked if he could play a game on my IPhone… I said no but we could play a game. We proceeded to spend the next 30 min talking and entertaining ourselves. I realized as I looked at all the people tucked into their own world that I don’t want my son to think its ok, or even expected, to never interact with other people.
Almost anywhere we go, this is the same scenario. It doesn’t matter where we are– Dr’s office, in line at Target, even today at the zoo… We passed a family of 5 and every single person, even the kids, was looking at their cell while they walked. I can’t count the number of times I’ve been next in line at the grocery and someone held up the line to finish a text before they pay. Seriously. This happened to me twice last week … which leads me to Friday….
Friday I took Boo to the mall to get a new belt. On the way out we passed the children’s play area. As I looked at Boo I remembered how much he loved playing there when he was smaller. I stood and watched the adorable kiddos playing and felt a twinge in my heart remembering like it was only yesterday that my oldest son also was excited to run and play in there… and that’s when I saw it… a long desk like area with stools and a place for each parent to plug in their smartphones while the kids play. Each space was occupied and each adult was lost in their phone without even a glance up. No one was talking to anyone else. Everyone in their own world…
I know many will find no problem with that, but it saddens me. I remember watching my oldest play while I chatted with the moms next to me. This was 20 years ago… B.S. (before smartphone) I know not everyone these days is constantly connected, but I just had one of those weeks where everywhere I went people were connected to the web and not their surroundings… I would like to challenge you to pick one day a week to go technology free… Perhaps not totally, but just less than the usual… Boo and I have long enjoyed what I call “tech free Tuesdays” Lately we have gotten away from that but seeing so much disconnect this week, we are starting again. I leave my phone on because I have a son off at college, but we spend the day with no ipad games, no movies and no Netflix … We go to the library, read books and play board games. We laugh, giggle, and relax—recouping from our tech filled days.
Technology is great and I really love it! Being a blogger, I tweet, post, and update quite often… its part of the job. Tech is also great for helping my special needs son. I have apps galore that help him with his struggle of speech, social skills, etc… However, too much of a good thing is never optimal and we all need a break from our rushed crazy lives and I once again encourage you to join us on the quest for one tech free (ish) day a week…
While wandering through the endless sea of the internet, one idea keeps popping back at me and when I see it, I think, “Oh my gosh so true….” What I have seen are countless memes with characters of best friends from a TV series with the phrase “You are my person…”
My BFF, Heather Dawn, has been the one constant in my life since our junior high days… Since we were not quite 13, till now at the ripe old age of ( well, let’s just say past 39) she knows all my deepest darkest secrets, and I hers… She knows all my wishes, regrets, joys and fears. She knows that I am always there for her just like she is for me. No. Matter. What. She has seen me through everything from first broken hearts, to first bras, to marriage, babies, divorce and healing. Over the years I learned that boys come and go… men break vows… but best friends??? My best friend is my constant. She is my person…
So, in honor of my bestie, here is my top 7 reasons my BFF is better than a guy:
1)Even if we argue, we always make up. She never takes off and just finds a new, younger, more fun best friend… oh wait, that was my ex husband 😉
2) She loves me just the way I am and does not expect me to change. She accepts my flaws and imperfections as part of what makes me, me.
3)She always tells me I look great even when I’m sending her a morning selfie with my frizzy morning hair sticking out in every single direction and I look like something my cat dragged in.
4) In school, we spent every waking moment together… in class, on the bus, at each other’s houses… And when we weren’t together, we were on the phone. You know the one with the really long, long cord tied to a wall LOL… My dad would get frustrated and say ” Don’t you two EVER run out of things to say to each other?? She was JUST here…” Guess what Dad? 28 years later and my bestie is usually the first person I talk to when I wake up and the last before I go to sleep… oh and in between, if we are not talking off and on during the day, we are texting. Constantly.
5) Speaking of phones, I have to add that my bestie is the only person who I can be totally comfortable being on the phone and saying nothing at all… NOTHING….. Sometimes when you’re a busy mom , multitasking a million things… it’s nice to have someone who doesn’t expect you to fill a void of silence every single second… yet she knows your every thought.
6) She never judges me. No matter how insane, crazy or off the wall my choices may be, she’s just like, whatever…. That’s just my BFF…
7) We can’t keep secrets from each other… one of us will say “I have to confess XYZ to you…” and the other one just smirks and is like ” Ya, well I knew that ages ago just waiting for you to tell me…”
So Heather Dawn,
You are the Laverne to my Shirley…the Lucy to my Ethel…the Betty to my Wilma…
You are my person.