Silver linings...

Superheroes aren’t one size fits all…

I’m sitting here today feeling very blessed… Sometimes my life feels hectic and crazy, but I am always grateful for this messy, beautiful life…

My youngest son has special needs and his dad left us when he was only 7.  I have balanced raising two boys on my own while ensuring my special needs son has access to everything he needs to have an easier time functioning in our world… Financially, his dad does pay child support and health insurance on both my boys… and for that I am grateful. However, it can be hard being a single parent with no other parent there to lean on…  Regardless though, raising my sweet son brings me a joy I can’t describe. Things we take for granted can be difficult for him, but through Speech Therapy, Occupational Therapy, Physical Therapy, Social Skills Therapy, and Music Therapy, he is finding his way to navigate our world…

My little superhero!
My little superhero!

Three years ago, I made the decision to homeschool my youngest son for many reasons.  This has turned out to be a huge blessing for me and my child. He is functioning so much better now that he is home with me… Our days are filled with teachable moments and a love of learning and in-between , many therapies.

Today we attended an Autism Expo. We met so many amazing people and received multitudes of information for ways and places that are there for special needs kiddos and their families.  I left there feeling such a happiness and gratefulness in my heart that I live somewhere I can have access to all these amazing things for my son…

I sit here watching my son happily writing me a list of places he wants to visit (Grandparents house tops the list) and I am filled with joy that God chose me to be his Mama…  I am grateful for my little superhero and all the wonderful things he has taught me…

I’d love to hear from my readers… What is one thing you are grateful for in your own messy , beautiful life?

Much Love,

Shell Maria

 

154 Comments

  1. I am a single mom to my amazing 5-year-old daughter, and every single day, I’m grateful for the happiness, joy, and love she brings to my life. I’m truly blessed! Our kids are super heroes 🙂

    1. Hi Corey, yes our kiddos sure are superheroes 🙂

  2. This is so sweet! You go mama!

    1. Thanks Megan!

  3. I too am a single mom. My husband and I split up a couple of years ago (my decision),and have been divorced for almost a year now. He does spend time with our son but doesn’t pay child support. Not worth the fight to me. My son was born with a hearing loss and has to wear hearing aids. He has caught up to the kids in his pre-k so no longer needs speech therapy and his teacher says he’s doing great. He has had a lot of issues with many things and I have recently realized he also has some sensory issues that we are now working on as well, but he is my little guy and the reason I can get through each day!

    1. Hi Christina, Thanks so much for sharing… You are an awesome Mama! We also deal with a lot of sensory issues but our OT is able to help him a lot.. Do you guys get OT?

  4. Nice post and adorable picture! I applaud you for being able to homeschool – I sigh with relief when my oldest gets on the bus!

    1. Thanks Dawn! I loved this pic of my little boy… He loves all things Batman 🙂

  5. Ewa

    He can be a Superhero, if his mom is Wonder Woman 🙂
    My mother was left alone after the death my dad, but I was already a teenager and we did not have additional problems.

    1. Thanks Ewa 🙂

  6. Way to go, mama! You’re doing a great job! Your son looks so happy! YOU are a superhero in my eyes.

    1. Aww… thank you so much Michelle!!!

  7. What a great post!! I am so glad you found a support group, it can be so helpful having people in the same situation around you. Your son looks like he is a VERY happy young man.

    1. Thank you Yolanda! Yes, he is a very happy little fellow 🙂

  8. Thank you Zoey!

  9. Thanks for your unconditional love to your son 🙂 the costume is great! You should get one for yourself too, you are a supermum 🙂

    1. Aww…Thank you so much!

  10. Love your posts. Life sure has its ups and downs but kids are truly the greatest blessings.

    1. Thanks Carrie!

  11. What a lovely post about your son! I have always been a huge Batman fan btw 😉

    I’m so happy you have found a good flow with him and that what you two are doing is working out. That’s really awesome to hear.

    As for what I am grateful for? Lots of things but right now I will just say being a mama to my amazing little dudes (even the one that isn’t earthside just yet). Its hard but they are my reason to keep going every day.

    1. Thanks Letitia! …and congratulations on your new (soon to be new) little one! Being a mama brings me such joy 🙂

  12. This post warms my soul! I do not have children but I work as an ABA therapist here in Australia. Even though the kiddos I work with are not mine, I love watching them grow and celebrating what makes them special.

    1. Thanks Stephanie! As an ABA therapist, I’m sure you are a treasure to the families and children you work with ! I value the therapists that I am blessed to have work with me and my son so much! 🙂

  13. What a beautifuly written post ! Have you read “the reason I jump ?” It is written by a non – verbal Young Japanese boy with autism , it’s written in a question and answer form . It’s such a fascinating book ! X

    1. Thank you for your kind words Clare! I had not heard of that book but am going to try and find it and give it a read!

  14. This is such a great post, and on Women’s Day, I need to say WOW to you as a single mom making it work. There are so many amazing parents who like you, are just killin’ it every day and yet seem like such amazing people with so much gratitude and love and hope. Your sons are very lucky to have you as a mom working so hard to make this into a beautiful life for them. Autism is so complex and it can be so taxing on all family members, yet, as you say, they are so amazing and just as unique and wonderful as every other person. They just need some extra understanding on how to work with them, instead of against them to make this world tick just right for their tock.

    1. Yvette… thank you so much for your kind and beautiful response…. 🙂

  15. I can’t choose just one thing I’m grateful for! How blessed your son is to have you!

    1. Thanks Karla! 🙂

  16. Doll is definitely the absolutely best thing in my life. She is my little miracle. Not because I wasn’t supposed to be able to have kids or anything like that, but because she changed my life. i never liked myself. In fact, I downright hated myself all my life. And I thought I needed to be punished for being, well, me. Then I became a mom and I’m a completely different person. I don’t know if I actually like myself (because honestly, I just don’t thnk about myself in terms of like or dislike these days) but I’m happy with my new identity as a mother. I feel like it is truly what I was meant to be. Doll is my superhero 🙂

    1. Jaclyn I am so happy for you that you have found a peace in yourself and Doll is so blessed to have you for her Mama!!

  17. Jen

    Love your post! I am grateful for my kids, all so uniquely different from one another!

  18. Sherry

    I love all of your blogs! You offer such a tremendous amount of encouragement to your readers. It is always nice to reflect on the good things and people in our lives, My children and grandchildren are up front and center for me!!! Please keep sending out your messages of good cheer.

    1. I’m so glad you enjoy reading my blog!! 🙂

  19. Sarah

    I have read a few of your blog posts and love them! You are an amazing mom and it is so g old to hear real life stories! Thanks for sharing 🙂

    1. Aww… Thanks so much Sarah!! 🙂

  20. This is such an open and honest post. Thanks for sharing! I am grateful for my two kiddos and the joy they bring to my days!

    1. Thanks so much Tara! 🙂

  21. Such a lovely post, I love the photo of him in his Batman outfit! I think you’re a real inspiration!

    1. Aww… thanks so very much Sarah!

  22. Such an inspirational post, to be thankful for so many things when life is that little bit tougher than you were counting on. It sounds like you’ve really found the blessing in disguise though which is beautiful… Even more wonderful is that it sounds like your son is making significant progress which is amazing for you.

    My father is currently going through a hard time emotionally so I am very thankful he has kept communicating with me through all of it. I don’t think it can compare to your situation but regardless I am incredibly thankful 🙂

    1. Thank you so much for sharing Zoe… I’m sure you are a wonderful blessing to your father during this time 🙂

  23. I love the positivity in this blog post! I think it’s amazing that you home school! I considered it but not sure if I’d be the best inspiration.fit. Good on you mama!

    1. Thanks so much Shelby!! I adore homeschooling Boo 🙂

  24. Life is all about appreciating the little things,right? I am grateful to have a job that gives me financial freedom. I am just happy to wake up and drink a hot cup of coffee and out food in my belly. Life is good. Great post, Shell.

    1. Thanks sweetie! It absolutely is the little things in life that bring us the most joy and happiness… I think when we are grateful for all aspects of our lives we are much happier 🙂

  25. Amy Douglas

    Yes, you are so blessed and lucky, and this read made me so happy. I love his shirt, but most of all, his SMILE!

    1. Thank you Amy!!! And he does have a sweet smile!!! Life is harder for him than most of us yet he always has a smile across his face 🙂 Such a sweet little lovie….

  26. Jessica

    This makes my heart so happy!! It can get hard for every parent, but as a single mom to a special needs child is unimaginable for me. You seem to be doing an excellent job! One thing I’m grateful for in my life is our house. It’s slightly bigger than the tiny houses you see on tv now and sometimes it gets hard seeing other people’s amazing huge houses but then I remember this is ours. We own it. We have lots of land and an excellent community and plenty of room for our son and pup so I guess all in all it’s not so bad!

    1. Aww thank you so much for your sweet words Jessica!!! And thanks for sharing about your lovely home! It sounds wonderful! Last year I sold my house of 16 years to downsize and now… I’m ready to go even smaller! I’ve gotten rid of so much “stuff” and make life is so much more relaxed 🙂

  27. Beautiful post! I always admire the strength of single moms. Your son is an amazing young man and is blessed to have you as his Mama. Best wishes on your journey together!

    1. Thanks so much Keri!:)

  28. So wonderful to hear about your little guy. Here’s wishing you all much happiness!

    1. Thank you so much Pooja! 🙂

  29. He’s a lucky boy to have such a loving Mom. I am grateful for my boys and their dad, my life just wouldn’t be the same without them and all the joy they bring.

    1. Thanks so much Bekah! 🙂

  30. A big salute to you and for all those mothers who always struggle to grow up their babies without thinking of their own happiness. Hats off.

    1. Thanks so much for your kind words….

  31. Stephanie

    I am also a single mum. You’re doing a great job! Cant wait to hear about your journey on home schooling as this has crossed my mind also.

    1. Hi Stephanie! I love being able to homeschool my son! It can be tough at times, but totally worth it 🙂

  32. Thanks for sharing this post. It’s awesome that you connect with your sons so well. Autism can be challenging but in the end amazing people they are!

    1. Thanks so much Chastity !

  33. I love how beautifully honest and simple this post was! You are so blessed and you can do this!

    1. Aww thank you so very much Allison!!

  34. This article is so sweet… and so true. This was a great read

    1. Thank you Stacie!

  35. HA HA HA always batman. What is it with boys and batman

    1. LOL so true! 🙂

  36. Ashley Cook

    Bless your heart! I believe it takes a special kind of person to be a parent of a special needs child. My aunts story is similar to yours, raising multiple children, one with special needs all by herself. The strength that you and she has shown over the years is amazing. Keep being that positive role model for your children!

    1. Aww.. thanks so much Ashley!!! 🙂

  37. This was so sweet!! Sounds like you’re doing a great job, mama!!

    1. Thanks so much Alex! 🙂

  38. Sarah

    Thank you for sharing! I love this reminder to us to be thankful for the simple things in life! I am thankful for being able to stay home with my kids even though most of the time it’s very chaotic 🙂

    1. Your welcome Sarah! 🙂

  39. Ashley

    I love being able to watch them grow, staying home is a blessing!

    1. Hi Ashley! So true… I have always felt blessed to be able to stay home with my kids…. 🙂

  40. There are so many things to be grateful for. We only have to look for them 🙂 I keep a gratitude journal but I’m always forgetting to write in it!

    1. Hi Jojo! A journal is a fantastic idea!! 🙂

  41. How sweet! Superheroes battle something everyday, which is why you both fit the description perfectly!

    1. Aww… thank you so much Torche!!! 🙂

  42. Lovely post, it must be hard being a single mum and having all the family responsibilities on your shoulders but it sounds like you are doing a fantastic job, you should be very proud of yourself and your two boys. I have a 3 year old boy who is my superhero, no matter how frustrated or down sometimes life gets us he will do something that makes me laugh!

    1. Thanks Natalie! Being a single mom is definitely hard but the joys outweigh anything else 🙂

  43. I’m glad that you’ve brought this subject to the world’s notice. Often we are used to certain categories of people who are elevated above others But interestingly,there are people working hard in the background who aren’t noticed. I consider myself s super hero, I am a mum,wife,student,blogger and still have have regular job that helps maintain the home. It’s hard but I bet the world doesn’t notice that

    1. Hi Marie! You sound like an amazing superhero to me!!! 🙂

  44. Shannon

    As a recent new mamma you are true super hero. I have 2 step kids that I am very involved with and my own little babe but i could imagine the responsibility of home schooling. You recognized what your child need are provided, you are an amazing women and mother.

    1. Thanks so much for your kind and sweet words Shannon!! 🙂

  45. This is such a touching and lovely post. You are a wonderful mom

    1. Thank you so very much Jayashree! 🙂

  46. This was such a beautiful and simple post and I do think single mom are such super heroes.

    1. Thank you so much Kristal…. 🙂

  47. Oh my gosh, you are amazing! You deserve an award, Mama. Your kiddo is so lucky to have you! I’m grateful for the love that my daughter shows to me — she teaches me every day that I am worthy of love, which is something I would question without her!

    1. Aww… thank you so very very much Amanda!!

  48. Kathy

    I work in a preschool with special needs. Sadly, I have to say, not all parents are as devoted as you are…your son is so lucky to have you as a parent. The smile on his face says it all. Love, dedication and above all a sense of humor can get you through so much!

    1. Thanks so much Kathy and you are a super hero too!!! What a blessing you must be to those little kiddos 🙂

  49. Heart touching, this is so nice… Angel mom is the support of super hero..

    1. Thanks so much Divya!

  50. I am a teacher who sees kiddos with all types of abilities, I want to thank you for being such a big advocate for your son! How cool is it that visiting grand parents house is on the top of his list! Good work mom!

    1. Thanks Becky!! 🙂

  51. I have been lucky to have 3 younger siblings who are both mentally and physically healthy. I can see your sons have an amazing mother with a heart full of love for both of them.
    I, myself, have been suffering with depression in my daily life, but I think I can be grateful for it, because I have learnt So much about myself and I was able to bring more understanding about depression to other people. I’m trying to find thé good about anything bad.

    Im sending love,

    Diana

    1. Thank you so much for sharing your journey Diana! Much love is being sent your way 🙂

  52. Hi there! I am thankful for this post!

    Though I am not a mother, I have a friend who is Autistic. We just graduated from high school and he is so great. Like always, there so people who love to pick and mess up the good things in life, but Joey (my friend) is awesome and he is also one of the most talented, authentic and knowledgeable people I know today!

    Thank you for making me think of such a wonderful person at a very hectic time in my life (just moved to college)! 🙂

    1. Hi Sweetie… I’m sure that you are a huge blessing to your friend! 🙂

  53. Kim

    Sounds like he’s lucky to have a great mama like you. Keep up the good work.

    1. Thanks Kim 🙂

    2. Thank you Kim! 🙂

  54. Beautiful post! You are such a strong person and a great mom!

    1. Thanks so much 🙂

  55. You are so strong. I’m so happy for you and your boys, you have been able to pull through. It will definitely get better.

    1. Thanks Amber! I’m a big believer in everything happens for a reason and my boys and I have truly been blessed with our life 🙂

  56. You really are a wonderful mum keep it up 🙂

    1. Thanks so much Lawson!

  57. What a personal story and parenting is definitely hard. Good for you for doing it alone. My husband is military and is deployed a lot so I couldn’t imagine being that single parent all the time.

    1. Thank you Terra…

  58. I am your fan, You are an inspiring soul. Managing the wholeworld of responsibilities is not an easy task. You are doing an amazing job. God Bless you

    1. Thank you so much for your kind heart Jiya!!! 🙂

  59. Sun Mama, you are doing a good job. I cant imagine how you deal with the hardship yet you have a happy & positive attitude… this is a huge inspiration for the rest of us. Keep up the great work and keep smiling. <3 from India.

    1. Hi Trisha!! Thank you so very much! 🙂

  60. I am so greatful to be able to stay at home to take care of the toddler, even as the bigger kids venture off in the world to college. ❤️

    1. Hi Darlene! I have been following you on your blog and you are such an inspiration!!!

  61. This is so very heartwarming. I have cousins who have special needs and they are such blessings to the family. I commend you for handling everything so gracefully. Bless your family always.

    1. Thank you so very much…

  62. I considered buying a superhero suit. But as an overweight man, I figured I’d not torture the world that way.

    1. LOL Joseph!!!! You always make me laugh!!! ….and… you should totally rock a superhero suit!!! I totally plan on rocking’ my Star Trek officers uniform at the next Comic Con 🙂 ( Original series of course)

  63. Jenni Petrey

    I’m not a single mum but know exactly how tough life is with special needs children. I’m grateful for both my children- they’ve taught me to see life differently!

    1. Thanks Jenni! 🙂

  64. Every home is first home school and every moms lap is first institution. Every child has special needs and its only mom who could understand her child. You are doing a great job besides all of that.

  65. What a great post, I loved it so much!

    1. Thanks Bailey!! 🙂

  66. wishing you a happy life ahead. Adorable post

  67. I love your thoughts. Superhero’s never go out of trend do they?

    1. Thanks so much! … and no… they never do… 🙂

  68. What an inspiration you and your son are to all of us! He is so lucky to have such an amazing mom to learn from. We need more moms like you in the world.

    1. Aww thank you so very much Michele!!! 🙂

  69. U r a super mommy. More power to u

  70. I’m grateful for my dog. Her enthusiasm is infectious.

    1. That’s great! Fur babies are important too! 🙂

  71. This is truly inspiring! I wish you only good luck and blessings in the future xx

  72. Amazing post. You are an amazing mama and to your son you are his superhero. Both you and your son are strong!

    1. Thank you Kristy!! 🙂

  73. Chloe woodhouse

    I am greatful for having the people I do in my life! You are incredibly inspiring! X

  74. Yes the small once are our super heros, when I was little it was of course Mickey Mouse and my dad

    1. Thanks for sharing 🙂

  75. Thank you for sharing. Inspiring article.

    1. Your welcome 🙂

  76. You are such a wonderful mom. I see children who are on the spectrum all the time, and even though they may have difficulties in some areas, they surpass many children in other areas. Recognizing that it a skill and a gift. And you seem like a amazing mom who is able to see all those wonderful things in your son and kids like him, while many do not. Power to you! Wishing you all the best 🙂

    1. Thanks you so much Mira! 🙂

  77. Thank you for sharing about your two boys…they seem like they have a great Mama who works very hard for them! The most beautiful thing is my daughter & the amazement in her eyes when something is new or exciting. Makes all the chaos stop for just that minute 🙂

    1. Aww thanks so much Katie!! Your totally rocking mommyhood too!

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