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A Day in the Life of a Geek Mom….

Hello! Welcome to The Sun Mama ! I’m Shell Maria, mom to two wonderful boys. I am a diabetic and have fibromyalgia so life can get fairly hectic… ( or tired LOL)

I homeschool my youngest son, who has special needs. He was diagnosed at 3 on the Autism Spectrum with PDD NOS. At 6 he was given a secondary diagnosis of severe cognitive and developmental delays. Several years ago I pulled him from our school district that was not providing for my child with his best interests at heart… His program was ended, he was mainstreamed and could not keep up. He was bullied on the playground and in the classroom. He had stomach pains at the thought of going to school. At the time, his IEP had a goal of reading and comprehending at kindergarten level and yet he was being expected to read and understand a 6th grade level reader… When I pulled him out to homeschool, I got my son back… My sweet, happy wonderful Boo! Boo has thrived with me homeschooling him and is the happiest little guy you will ever meet! He loves learning and reading and spending time with Mama. We fill our days with learning, living and enjoying the blessings of life…
My oldest son, David, is so sweet… He is patient, kind and loving to his little brother. When he went off to college, he knew that not only would Boo miss him, he knew that with his special needs it would be even harder… he called him everyday just so he could ask his little brother about his day…  Speaking of school, this mama needs to brag a bit! David is on a 4 year scholarship at CORNELL!!! I feel that I am a fairly intelligent, well-read person, but sometimes when I talk to him I have NO idea what he is talking about so I just nod and try to look like I understand LOL…. He’s a great kid who loves writing, drawing and hiking. David loves writing fanfiction and short stories.

My kids and I love cooking new recipes, days at the library and geeking out over our favorite fandoms… We are passionate about Harry Potter (Boo and I are Gryffindor, David is Hufflepuff), Lord of the rings (we love our Hobbits!) and (Star Wars–the originals of course) Star Trek is a religion in our house and we always remember that Goonies never say die… Please follow The Sun Mama as I start this blogging adventure and share my sometimes crazy, but always blessed life of being a mama…

mama love :)
mama love 🙂

214 Comments

  1. Michele

    Ok niece, confused old lady here. Don’t know for sure where to hit the follow button. I enjoyed the post till now though.

    1. There is now an easier to use subscribe button that you should be able to see towards the top of your screen 🙂

      1. Looooved this article!!!! You are onto a good thing!!! And YES, your son-at-college, is absolutely AMAZING!!! So precious!!!!

        (I do not see a subscribe button anywhere either. Also, you might want to get photos into the preview pictures. 😄)

        1. Hi Barb! Thanks for your kind words!! Also, I went back and added a subscribe button to the bottom of my post and it is also located at the top right of my page 🙂 I will get working on those preview photos…. not sure why they aren’t showing up but I really appreciate you bringing it to my attention 🙂

  2. I enjoy all your posts. Your boys sound amazing. You are surely doing a great job parenting them. Way to go on following your heart and homeschooling.

    1. Thank you so much Debbie!!!

  3. This is super sweet! You are such a strong and awesome Mom! And I love the Lord of the Rings! One of my friends is having a Lord of the Rings and Star Wars Wedding Mix this year!

    1. Thanks Danielle! and… wow! what a super fun idea for a wedding!!! I love it!!

  4. Jen

    I really enjoyed this post and getting to know you a little better. Your boys sound like amazing kids! You should be proud!

    1. Aww… thanks Jen!!

  5. Awe! What a great older brother! Congrats!!!!! That’s is an awesome achievement I would be a very proud momma ☺

    1. Thanks Ebony! I am so blessed to be a Mama to these two boys 🙂

  6. I am a former special education teacher. I think it is wonderful you saw what your son needed and provided for him! It is a shame they are pushing so many special needs kids into mainstream classrooms that need more help! Congrats on the Cornell scholarship! You must be so proud!

    1. Thank you Sarah! I’m so proud of both my boys and I do feel very blessed to be able to provide an education for my special needs son that fits his needs…

  7. wonderful post, congratulations on two sweet boys

  8. Aren’t kids just the best? Your boys sound wonderful! 🙂

    1. Hi Corey! They sure are and they definitely keep life interesting hahahaha!!!

  9. You’re such an amazing momma! I love that you did what you needed to do to make sure your kiddo wasn’t getting bullied at school and took the time to homeschool him. You’re amazing!

    1. Thank you so much Ashleigh!!!!

  10. My husband introduced me to Star Wars recently. I don’t mine the most recent ones

    1. Hi Amanda…. I really love the first three that came out but not so much the middle ones… the new ones coming out though my kids and I really enjoyed a lot and can’t wait to see the next one 🙂

  11. That is incredible that your son would call his brother every night! What a thoughtful young man!

    1. Hi Karla… he is such a sweet young man…

  12. This is such a great post! With two boys of my own that have a loving bond, I love the fact that your older son is so great with his younger brother. Your very lucky to have such a great relationship with your boys. Good job momma!

    1. Thank you Yolanda!

  13. It is amazing how patient your oldest is with your youngest. You don’t see that often. I have been thinking more and more about home schooling my kiddos. Where I am in NY there isnt much support with the schools.

    1. Hi Elizabeth 🙂 Homeschooling was a huge decision for me but it’s one of the best choices I ever made for Boo… 🙂

  14. You are a super strong mom. Keep up the good work.

    1. Thanks Bola! 🙂

  15. There are so many more things children can learn at home. I used to teach young people who were home schooled. I actually taught carpentry but their outlook on life was so much broader than those who attended school and were moulded by the education system.

    Enjoy the journey!

    1. Thank you Mandy! 🙂

  16. What a brave move to home school, but well done! it’s fabulous that your son is so much happier and that you get to spend quality time with him.

    1. Thanks Janine ! I feel blessed to be able to spend such quality time with him 🙂

  17. It’s great to hear you talk about your boys with so much affection
    I enjoyed reading this post

    1. Thank you so much Ngumabi 🙂

  18. Your boys sound perfect! You are doing an amazing job with them! <3

    1. Aww… thanks so much Kristi!

  19. Your boys sound awesome! I am a bi Harry Potter fan here! When my baby girl arrives in October she will have a wizarding world nursery!

    1. Hi Katherine! Congratulations on your new little one! What an awesome nursery for her to come home to!! 🙂

  20. Your boys sound super sweet <3

    1. Thanks Vanessa 🙂

  21. You are one amazingly strong mama and your son is such an awesome big brother. I’m sure he’s learned a lot from watching you over the years!

    1. Thank you so much Lindsay!!! 🙂

  22. This is such a sweet story! What a great big brother!

    1. Thanks Lynn! 🙂

  23. You are incredibly awesome! David and Boo are lucky to have you and you are blessed to have them.
    More power and love and happiness to all of you! ♡♡♡

    1. Thank you so much Dilraz ….

  24. Alyssa

    This is awesome, we also love the Goonies! Our family still gets together to watch it now (and we’re all grown up!)

    1. Hi Alyssa! Goonies never say die!!!! 🙂

  25. Great post momma. Congrats on everything.

    1. Thanks Kristal 🙂

  26. In the end, you will always know what’s best for your babies. Sounds like you did the right thing by taking him out and schooling him on your own. Great job Momma!

    1. Thank you so much Sarah….

  27. The Goonies never say die!! Love that you are a family of bookworms!!

    1. Thanks Bethany!!! 🙂

  28. Amy

    Your boys both sound so sweet, they have a wonderful mother raising them for sure! 🙂

    1. Aww… thank you so much Amy! 🙂

  29. it was so nice to get to know you a bit more 🙂

    1. Thanks Sophia! 🙂

  30. Nancy

    You are an amazing mom And you have a gem of kids 😊

    1. Thanks so much Nancy!! 🙂

  31. It is so wonderful that your son got the help he needed through you! It is great that you have the ability to do that!

    1. Thanks Amanda I truly feel blessed!

  32. you’re great full of positive energy to homeschooling. lovely.post, thanks

    1. Thank you Cathy! 🙂

  33. Geek moms unite <3 I love your homeschooling style! Keep up the good work geek mama!

    1. Thanks so much Katriza!!!! 🙂

  34. unibooth

    touching post..i like the last picture”mama love”

    1. Aww… thank you so very much….

  35. Gabrielle Bunch

    I really enjoyed reading this post!

    1. Thanks so much Gabrielle!! 🙂

  36. It seems your plate is full but so is your heart. You should be so proud – of both your boys and yourself!

    1. Thanks so much sweetie!! 🙂

  37. Sounds like you are SLAYING THE MOM GAME, #ravenclaw LOL

    1. Thanks Darlene!! 🙂

  38. Kristy Bullard

    Sounds like you have your hands full! I bet you’re loving every minute of it. I also homeschool my daughter and son. We have some tough days but it is so worth it!

    1. Hi Kristy! It’s absolutely worth every moment… 🙂

  39. You have two sweet boys, so lucky to have you as a mom! Homeschooling scares me you so so brave and amazing to take that on for your family!

    1. Hi Jennifer 🙂 Homeschooling was never scary to me… just the best option for us at the time 🙂

  40. Thank you for sharing your story! I am a special education teacher, and it breaks my heart that the school was unable to provide for your son’s needs. I admire that you took on the task of homeschooling him. I bet that he has thrived. How wonderful to have a mother that cares!

    1. Thank you so much Elizabeth! 🙂

  41. Wow this is such a great article! Your boys sounds so sweet and supportive of one another. And your bragging rights are well earned, Cornell is a great school. Keep it up 🙂

    1. Thanks Amy! 🙂

  42. I love these little quotes! And your Batman shirt is the best! Looks just like my own. 🙂

    1. Thanks Emily! 🙂

  43. I have so much respect for parents who homeschool! Your children sound so sweet, and you can tell they are very loved!

    1. Thanks Jenna! 🙂

  44. So sweet ! Nice to learn about you and your boys ! Congrats on your son at college .. such an accomplishment and awesome he got a scholarship ! Good for him:-)
    Also LOVE HP!

    1. Thank you Cheyenne! 🙂

  45. This was great! Very well written and such a great story!!!

    1. Thanks Stacy! 🙂

  46. Thank you for sharing your heart and your family! Teaching is a superpower! Looking forward to reading more!

    1. Thanks so much Rebecca! 🙂

  47. mei

    What a fun adventure you have with your kids. I am sure they will treasure all these beautiful memories with you when they grow up. You are such an inspiration to your readers.

    1. Thank you so much Mei… 🙂

  48. HOW EXCITING! What a proud mama you must be. My 5 year old tested into his gifted academy a few months ago, (we’re also in AZ) and I was thrilled. I hope he gets a scholarship to college some day too!

    1. Hi Britney! Thats fabulous news! 🙂

  49. Homeschooling mama. here!
    This is so touching! It’s great to hear the siblings can get along (mine don’t)
    Thank you for the inspiration!

    1. Hi Britney! Your welcome 🙂

  50. It sounds like you have two wonderful boys that are thriving! It’s really sweet that David keeps his bond strong with his brother by calling him every night. I’m sure that means the world to Boo (and you)!

    1. Thank you Samantha! 🙂

  51. I reallly enjoy your posts and look forward to them, you and your boys should be very proud!

    1. Aww thank you Shruti! 🙂

  52. Elizabeth O

    It was lovely to read more about you and your family. The way you talk about your children really shows how much of a bond you all must have and it sounds like you are doing a fantastic job! Enjoy all the precious moments, I am sure you will.

    1. Thank you so much Elizabeth! 🙂

  53. What a blessing to have these two love hugs in your life! Being a bit familiar with your posts, I know that each day brings triumphs over any challenges you may have. Your heart and Light is filled with love and joy, it is evident and beautiful to witness. 💗

    1. Thank you so much Evelyn! I feel truly blessed with the life I’ve been given! 🙂

  54. Wow, a scholarship at Cornell! That is awesome, and I know you are very, very proud of your son! 🙂

    1. Thank you Czjai! 🙂

  55. What a knit-together relationship you have with your sons. You’re too lucky m’aam for sure. Especially that your older son is away yet still makes time to contact his family, especially his younger one. So sweet and it would be so hard to find such a teenage kid! Anyway, keep growing strong. All the best.

    1. Thank you Darlene! 🙂

  56. You are such a wonderful mom who do the home schooling. I really have to applaud you and I think one need to have enough patience to do so. I hope to hear more about your parenting story and thank you for sharing every activities that you did with your boy.

  57. Geraline Batarra

    I like this post I love the way you tell us your story and I am happy that you have a very sweet and responsible son like David and Boo. I am glad that you do well even though it is a bit hard on your part. I salute you for being strong and sweet mother for your kids. Thank you for sharing, I do really appreciate it.

    1. Thank you so very much for your kindness Geraline! 🙂

  58. I don’t homeschool my kids but I have always kept the option open, for very similar reasons to what you mentioned. We would geek out all day too!!!!!!!!

    1. Hi Rachel! It’s always good to have options 🙂

  59. Looks like you have a busy but productive life. I wish I was able to achieve this much even in a week 😀

    1. Thanks so much Tanvi! I love staying busy! 🙂

  60. What a wonderful story. Your lil family sounds lovely x

    1. Thank you Helen! 🙂

  61. Pat

    How special your son is thriving with you as his homeschool teacher, and his brother is so thoughtful–calling him every night from college.

    1. Thank you Pat! 🙂

  62. Enjoyed reading the into to your little family. Sounds like you have some really good boys. Look forward to reading more about you and their adventures.

    1. Thanks Mary! 🙂

  63. You are a great home. I am so proud of you and for both the boys who rule your world 🙂

    1. Thank you Shefali! 🙂

  64. This is great…I loved reading about your day. You are rocking it momma!

    1. Thanks Holly! 🙂

  65. Your boys sound lovely – good job! Love the name of your blog #geekmom

    1. Thanks Rachel! 🙂

  66. You’ve got so many things going on in your life. I love that you still have a positive and happy disposition. Good for you for seeing what your son needed. And clearly, you did the right thing since your eldest has done well!

    1. Aww thanks so much Jennifer! 🙂

  67. What a great post! That’s so sweet that your teenager checks in with his brother.

    1. Thank you Jennifer. 🙂

  68. Love that your eldest calls his brother every day! How sweet is that? You did some great work there raising him!

  69. It sounds like you have two awesome children. You go mama! I can’t wait until my kids are older so that I can share my love of Harry Potter and Lord of the Rings with them.

    1. Thanks Margaret! 🙂

  70. Mar

    A staff member of mine has a theory that if you look hard enough, you will see a Batman shirt every day. This post was my Batman shirt!

    1. Ha ha ha! Love that Mar!! 🙂

  71. OMG! I’m passionate about Harry Potter I’m a Gryffinndor as well, I love Star Wars, Star Trek as well. From a view of your co-greekster (haha) My superpowers would be indivisibility (hahah) I enjoyed reading your post!

    1. Hi Alexine! That sounds like an awesome superpower!! 🙂

  72. Emily

    Wow you are incredible for being mindful of what was best for your son! I thought about homeschool as well. We enjoy cooking at our house too!

    1. Thanks Emily! 🙂

  73. You are a really amazing mother. Providing your son what he really needs and deserves, you did a great job homeschooling your younger son and you have raised both your sons so well. Congrats on Cornell scholarship!

    1. Aww thank you for your kindness Preet! 🙂

  74. We are impressed by your ability to homeschool your son. We also love baking and cooking with our niece and nephew. Our nephew is 6 and currently obsessed with Harry Potter too.

  75. Iya - Louisa

    What a lovely sweet post! When I was younger I use to do similar things for my mum. Love a positive post!

    1. Thank you Iya-Louisa! 🙂

  76. I have autism myself! It was so hard for me in school. I’m happy to hear that your homeschooling him because he will get the one on one attention he needs!

    1. I’m sorry you had a hard time in school Mary… I feel so blessed to be able to homeschool Boo…

  77. I’m wondering what it’s gonna be like when I have a kid:) I bet I’ll have a lot of fun and it will be very hectic 🙂

    1. Hi Corina! Kids keep life hectic but always interesting! 🙂

  78. What a cute update on your family! It’s so great that your two boys have a wonderful relationship with each other. Oh, how I wish I have a sibling sometimes!

    1. Thank you Rachel!! 🙂

  79. Congratulations on David’s Cornell scholarship!
    You have sweet kids. I hope mine grows up to be the same 🙂

    1. Thanks Mary! 🙂

  80. suchi

    You are an amazing mom! I was always curious about how homeschooling works for kids! Seems like you are great at it!

    1. Aww thanks Suchi! 🙂

  81. Patrice

    Loved your posts thank you for showing vulnerability! Thank you for sharing your story very interesting post.

    1. Thank you Patrice! 🙂

  82. Hello! I’ve been following your adventures for a few weeks now, I want to tell you I admire you and I congratulate you for the two fabulous young men you’ve raised!

    1. oh my goodness.. thank you so much Nati! That means so much to me!!! 🙂

  83. Hello Shell Maria – nice to get to “know” you a little better! And yes your older son rocks for calling his baby bro every night, but obviously you’ve done a lot to raise him right! 🙂 (My baby bro also has LDs and called me every night when I went off to college, if I didn’t call him first, for help with his homework 🙂 )

    1. Aww thanks so much Flossie!! 🙂

  84. Chastity

    I worked with kids with autism it was challenging but so rewarding. It’s amazing how you can learn so much from them if you have patience. Sometimes it was hard to see some teachers not have the proper training to deal with it. But at the end of the day, I was there for them. So I understand what you are dealing with homeschooling. it probably is best because some kids can makes ones life difficult when it comes to understanding someone with autism.

    1. Thank you Chastity! 🙂

  85. all I can say is you rock! I have no experience with children on the “spectrum” but I can only imagine the patience, love, and dedication it must take!

    1. Aww thanks so much Tara… I feel that we are not given more than we can handle and I am thankful each and everyday for my blessed life… 🙂

  86. I hat the whole idea of bullying. It is unfair and unnecessary. his older brother seems so sweet to him. I like that he calls him every night. Beautiful!

    1. Thank you Stephanie!

  87. Awwww David is indeed so sweet. <3 I really hope and pray that my girls would get along better. Right now, at their age, the bickering is constant. Good parenting job Momma! 😀

    1. Thank you Sigrid! It will get better… 🙂

  88. What an amazing son you have! He is gonna be one heck of a great man!

    1. Thank you Rose-Marie! 🙂

  89. Sounds like you’ve got great kids who love each other a lot, what a great relationship between them 🙂

    1. Thank you Jean 🙂

  90. You really are a super mom!! its amazing how y’all are such a tightly bonded family.

  91. hal

    you sound like the best mom ever! congrats on your new blogging endeavors!

    1. Thank you Hal! 🙂

  92. I love that you were an advocate for your kiddo and that he flourished because of it!

    1. Thanks so much Kate!

  93. You mean you don’t live for the prequels?! Just kidding, but awesome that you are doing what is best for your child and how he learns.

    1. LOL Emily! 🙂

  94. valerie christie

    Aw, that is the sweetest post! Your children sound amazing and you should feel very accomplished at doing an amazing job! Bask in it all a bit. Full ride scholarship, thoughtfulness and all!

    1. Thank you Valerie! 🙂

  95. Aaaawwwwwww….I’m soooooo proud of you, SunMama! You have put your life on the line, to raise Boo. I’ll be honest, very few people are capable of that and do it, anyhow.

    You’re a super Mummy and I llllooovveeeee you sssoooo much for that!

    A big hug and a hi 5 to that.

    1. Thank you so very much for your kind words!

  96. Enjoy your boys. Libraries are fantastic places for kids to learn, play and grow.

    1. Hi Nancie! Libraries are some of my favorite places! 🙂

  97. Hearing just a small part of your story is so impactful! You have so much strength, for your sickness and for your son. You sound like such a bright and sunny person, thank you for the inspo!

    1. Aww thanks so much Monica! I always try to see the bright side of things! 🙂

  98. I was homeschooled growing up! My mom homeschooled all five of her children and my youngest sibling just graduated from high school this year, so she is finally done! It was a lot of work and sacrifice on her part, but I really think that it was one of the best gifts she has ever given us (and she’s given a lot over the year!).

    1. Hi Reese! What a blessing your Mother was able to homeschool all of you! 🙂

  99. Ann Snook

    Aww, sounds like you and your sons have lots of fun together. Harry Potter is a great fandom to enjoy as a family . . . my hubby and I are both Slytherin proud!

    1. Thanks Ann! 🙂

  100. Kim

    I loved reading this! I don’t think I could home school but I’d like to think that if one of my kids needed it, I could figure it out! Good for you identifying what your son needed and getting it done!

    1. Thanks Kim!! 🙂

  101. You are blessed to have such wonderful, loving sons! I have a daughter and two sons myself and they are my treasures! We celebrate each and every milestone, big or small. Being a mom is the most tiring, but definitely rewarding role I have ever played.

    1. Hi Annemarie! I love being a mama so much too! 🙂

  102. What a proud momma! Your boys are so blessed to have you as their mother for always supporting them in everything! All the best to your family!

    1. Thank you so very much Stephanie! 🙂

  103. I love this. This is such a heartwarming piece. And I love the photo at the end. It really is crazy how they steal your heart

    1. Thanks Terri! 🙂

  104. Fauzia

    You have such a cute story to share.

    1. Thanks Fauzia! 🙂

  105. I love the sincerity in your writing 🙂 sounds like a wonderful relationship and companionship 🙂 you must be proud

    1. Thank you Nina! 🙂

  106. I always enjoy reading your posts. You boys sounds amazing.

    1. Aww thanks so much Sue! 🙂

  107. Thank you so much for sharing your story, it’s amazing what the tender love and care from moms can do and your oldest son is amazing as well!

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